Withdrawal Is An Ugly, Nasty B!%@#

And it turns me into one.  Luckily my very patient and supportive husband is aware of the forces that are currently at work here.  We remember this from last time - gluten withdrawal.  Since learning of my own sensitivity to gluten and as a result of previous attempts to go gluten-free, I definitely noticed a connection between removing gluten and my mood.  First, I am a total mess going off of it, and second, I am a happier, more energetic person once I get through the withdrawal.  I have actually wondered how much my past struggles with depression might be connected to my consumption of gluten.  If anyone had told me years ago how much different foods we eat can impact so many facets of health, I never would have believed or understood.  Now, after taking out certain foods and observing the changes, I'm a believer.  (It doesn't make it any easier, though.)

I have spent most of this evening in tears.  We found blood in Bug's diaper today.  The tiniest little streaks, but very much there and bringing me right back to the hell of 2 years ago.  How can this be happening again?  I thought we were getting so close to figuring things out.

So with the withdrawal, the discouragement, the tail-end of the nastiest flu I've had in a very long time, and the typical sleep deprivation of motherhood, let's just say I'm not a big ball of fun and happiness right now.

Contemplating An E.D.

Well, here we go again.  E.D. = Elimination Diet.  We've made some progress but we continue to see symptoms of food reactions with Bug.  Every time we seem to be getting close to "baseline," there is a setback.  It doesn't help when I do stupid things like eat food at a retirement party and, though I remembered to ask if there was dairy in it, I totally forgot about soy.  Of course there was soy on that chicken.  And, I should really just pass on food prepared by anyone else because the reality is that there is always the chance that the staff misunderstood or is not fully informed about hidden ingredients, cross-contamination, etc.  I need to stock my purse with more snacks to keep me going when I am out of the house.

So last night I began thinking about starting another elimination diet - not as drastic as the one that I did with Lovey, but to help narrow things down a bit more.  I'm going to pick a few foods from each food group and take out the other common allergens (wheat/gluten, egg, corn, nuts, citrus, and fish/shellfish, which I don't touch anyway).  I'll have wheat-free oatmeal, green smoothies, rice and chicken or turkey, potatoes, carrots, and a list of about 20 or so foods and ingredients that I will limit myself to and cross my fingers that it isn't any of them.  Without the major allergens, you would think we should be ok. 

Do I want to do this?  Heck no, but it took us over 7 months to get on track with Lovey's sensitivities and meanwhile he was in discomfort and damage was being done while he was reacting.  He is still reacting to dairy.  My hope is that we can figure out what's going on with Bug much sooner - he is already 2 months old - and maybe even prevent any longer term problems.  I hate seeing him feeling so uncomfortable :( 

What To Share and Will They Care?

So I've been thinking about names - a better name for this blog and a blog nickname for the new baby.  No luck with the blog name so far.  Any suggestions?  As for baby number 2, let's go with Bug - as in Snugglebug.  He really is awfully snuggly :)

I guess the question might be, why not just use my sons' real first names?  It's a fair question as I use their names freely on Facebook and I post their pictures on there (and here), as well.  I guess I feel that I have more control over who accesses my Facebook information than I do over this blog.  I don't mind if strangers read my blog, especially since I share information about our food sensitivity journey which might be helpful for other parents.  However, I'm not 100% comfortable revealing too much identifying information about my kids to people I don't know.  Not that there are many people reading my blog - yet?  I'm not kidding myself, though, that this sense of security isn't false and I'm aware that it is kind of a double standard to use their pictures and not their names.  But it's the call I'm making, for now.

I know some parents who do not reveal any information about their children online and are uncomfortable with any pictures, names, etc. being posted.  I know others who share anything and everything, who have no concerns about privacy.  I make no judgments of how any parents choose to approach this issue.  It's a tough one, and very personal.

What are our responsibilities, if any, as parents in terms of protecting our kids from exposure on the internet?  This is an unprecedented issue for parents to tackle.  My parents never had the opportunity to share pictures of me, details of my personal life, or their thoughts on parenting me with, well, potentially people all across the planet.  And being that these things were an impossibility in my childhood, I am not sure that I can give a qualified assessment of how I would feel about them if they hadn't been (if that makes sense).  Would I be embarrassed?  Angry?  Or would it even matter to me, if so many of my peers were in the same boat?  Am I over-thinking it and the children of today really won't care that their lives were so much more publicly documented than those of any generations previously?  Before they become old enough to make the decision about sharing private information for themselves, that is (and we know how that can turn out).


Still, for me, how much information and which information is shared about them, and with whom, is always a consideration.  Hopefully it will be of some consolation to my children, should they ever feel slighted, that I at least tried to be ever mindful of the fact that what I am sharing belongs to them.  Sharing what isn't technically mine to share is a liberty and privilege that I am claiming as their mom.  After all, it is every parent's natural instinct to want everyone to know how wonderful their children are.  Now we just have the ultimate tools to make it happen.

A Little Bit of History Repeating

For anyone wondering how the food sensitivity story ended for Lovey, well, it didn't.  It hasn't.  He continues to be unable to tolerate even small amounts of dairy however he seems to be okay with *most* other foods.  I'm never fully convinced that there aren't other foods that he reacts to.  But he is really thriving and there are no other ongoing symptoms or patterns, so we do not restrict his diet otherwise.

Lovey stopped nursing just past 2 years - probably a result of a combination of factors, not the least of which was a tanking supply due to my pregnancy.  He self-weaned, so we achieved that goal, though it was bittersweet.  I really thought he would ask to try it once the baby arrived, but he didn't.  I guess he was really ready even if I wasn't.  The good news for me was that it allowed me total freedom in my diet.  And did I enjoy it!  While I didn't add dairy in on a daily basis, I definitely indulged.  After all, I was pregnant and very, very hungry!  I did struggle with the worry that I was exposing the unborn babe to dairy and possibly exacerbating/creating a dairy sensitivity in him.  Interestingly I began to have some interesting reactions of my own after eating dairy, which confirmed the testing that I had done which indicated that I also have a sensitivity.  Boo.

And now for more bad news ... it looks like we are dealing with a food sensitivity situation with this baby, too.  We were so hopeful at first.  The first diapers looked good.  But then we started to see the same symptoms as with Lovey.  Congestion, fussiness, gas/discomfort, reflux, bad diapers.  I had pretty much cut out dairy from about a week before his birth but after things looked good, I admit I had some pizza just to see what would happen.  So I went off dairy again, problems continued.  Went off soy, problems continue.  Now I'm looking at maybe tomato because there might be a pattern.  It can take a few weeks to see improvements.  And the feelings of discouragement are starting to set in again.  I start to wonder - is it me?  Is it my milk?  This is further complicated by an oversupply/overactive letdown issue which can cause some of the symptoms.  There is overlap.  It is crazy-making.  Thankfully he is growing and developing very well and the symptoms are not as extreme (i.e. no blood) so I feel that his sensitivity(s) are likely less severe than Lovey's.  And, of course, we have lots of knowledge and experience behind us, which should help us figure this out fairly quickly.  *fingers crossed*

Our New Addition

Well, I have decided to give this blogging thing another shot. I think I lost steam partially because I was so busy and also because I didn't have much of a "following" to motivate me. But I realize now, reading back over my old posts, that I like to read what I wrote. It's kind of like finding an old diary, only much clearer and well-organized.

So, yes, I am going to write an update about Lovey's food sensitivity/allergy situation at some point. There have been other significant developments, however, that bear mentioning. As Lovey approached 2 years, we began talking about expanding our family. Next thing we knew, I was pregnant again! So, we now have TWO little boys in our family! Boy #2 (haven't given him his blog nickname yet) was born on November 27, 2010, and I think that our homebirth story, to my best recollection, would make a lovely first return-to-blogging post. I promise that I've included no gory details but it is, after all, a birth story so if the words "contraction," "dilated," or "push" make you squeamish, you may wish to sit this one out.

On Friday morning (Nov 26) I saw my midwife, Kaelyn, and she checked me (my choice) - I was 1 cm and 40% effaced. We joked that maybe she triggered something. Well, my water broke on Friday night around 7:30. I wasn't totally sure so Kaelyn came and checked me, and confirmed it. Contractions started when I went to bed, around 11ish and they were regular for a while, about 6-8 minutes apart. They kind of petered out, which worried me because with Lovey my labor stalled and that is one of the numerous reasons we had to go to the hospital. Everyone kept reminding me that this was a different baby and different labor, but it was hard not to compare because that was my point of reference, right? Anyway, I couldn't sleep and I woke Chris up to hang out with me around 3 or so. In the morning, Kaelyn advised us to go for a walk and to try some homeopathic remedies to help get the contractions more established. It was lovely because it was the first real snow flurries of the season and Lovey had a blast, shouting "Snow!" with glee every few minutes. So cute!

After lunch, Chris and I decided to have Lovey go to my parents' house so they came and picked him up. I had really hoped that he would be there for the birth but we realized that we were tired and needed rest, and I needed Chris's full attention and support. I found that Chris putting extreme pressure on my lower back during a contraction would help immensely. At around 3, I went to lay down and suddenly the contractions started coming fast and furious. Chris called our primary midwife, Rhea (who, I would like to mention, was not even on call but had attended Lovey's birth and, it seems, was determined to be present at this birth and we love her so much for this), at 3:30, and she arrived at about 4. She checked me and I was at 6 cm. She called Kaelyn who arrived shortly after that. I was laboring in the shower.

Maybe around 5 they moved me onto our bed. I was at 8-9 cm, and I just remember that shortly after that I felt like I needed to push so they said go ahead. I wasn't pushing effectively for a bit so they literally sat me on a birthing stool, on the bed, for a few pushes, then moved me back onto the bed, on my back. I pushed for about an hour total, and holy moly, crowning and pushing him out was painful! I guess I did not expect it because I was medicated for Lovey's birth. Man, did I just want him out!!! Chris helped to catch him, and announced his gender, and cut the cord (which was loosely around his neck but Rhea quickly dealt with that with no issues). Rhea and Kaelyn felt that he was a bit pale so after putting him right on my chest they blew some oxygen in his face. He was fine - more than fine, actually - perfect!



He was 8 lb 6 oz and 20.75 inches long (not 21.75 inches as I had previously thought and reported to everyone!).  Rhea and Kaelyn checked our vitals and did the after birth type stuff. We ordered take out and just hung out for 3 hours. Rhea ran me an herbal bath and put me in it, and they cleaned up everything while I relaxed with Chris and baby. It was amazing!!! Our midwives were just so fabulous!  I told them I loved them a few times, I think.  Then they tucked me into bed and left us to snuggle with our new babe.



There were moments during the labour and during the pushing, especially, when I thought, "What did I get myself into?" and "Is it too late to go to the hospital for an epidural?" (umm, yah! Way too late! LOL). I had to tell myself that there was only one way out and that was to keep going! But, at the end, I felt like a superwoman!! Being at home made it possible to have him naturally, and I am so grateful that we were able to have this experience.

Dug up an old post

I stumbled across an old post that I never published for some reason, from April 19, 2009. So I went ahead and published it. In it I talk about Lovey's almost first steps, among other things. The funny part? The following day he actually did take his first real steps and the guy has been running everywhere ever since!

Stay tuned ...

I think I may well be resurrecting this blog. Just doing some renovations for now ...

Be careful what you wish for ...

My wish is for answers to this food allergy puzzle that we are currently experiencing. The answers are not easy to find, and the answers found are not easy. I asked our gastroenterologist if there was any mainstream medical expert interested in exploring these IgG allergies/food sensitivities and reactions, and the answer was, approximately, "not really." By the way, an interesting article that explains the difference between IgE and IgG food allergies can be found here.

And so we research, we explore alternative medical options, we pay for IgG testing that is of questionable repute in the medical community - all in the hopes of gaining more insight into our son's, and my own, health.

My test results are back, and they aren’t pretty. My most highly reactive foods are: all cow dairy, almonds, cashews, flaxseed, quinoa, and asparagus. These are the foods that I am to completely avoid. Almonds, flax and quinoa are all foods that I had added into my diet in the past few years to, ahem, improve my diet. Ha ha ha. My moderately reactive foods are: goat dairy, all glutens (wheat, spelt, kamut, rye), egg white and yolk, banana, peanut, chilli pepper, lima bean and navy bean. These are the foods that I am to include in a 4 day rotation diet. I eat bananas every day. I am addicted to bread and cereal. I love chilli. This is going to be a challenge, indeed. I am proceeding as though my results also reflect Lovey’s intolerances, so these are the foods that he will be avoiding/rotating, as well.

Tonight I feel frustrated. One of the hardest parts of this journey has been, in some but not all cases, the lack of support and understanding from loved ones and friends - some so well-meaning but having never experienced the allergy-free lifestyle (as we had not, not so long ago) and being unable to empathize, and others clearly and outright doubting there even is a problem - easy to do when Lovey is otherwise so healthy and developing well. It’s hard enough when you already feel crazy because of food allergies, never mind when other people start to suspect you’ve lost your mind, as well. No one makes this stuff up. It’s very real. No, neither I nor Lovey will have a life-threatening reaction to any of our unsafe foods, but what mother wouldn’t want to keep their child away from foods that interfere with his or her optimal health? If you knew what those foods were, wouldn’t you do the same? Even if it meant that, sometimes, you would feel left out, alienated, misunderstood, frustrated, angry, crazy, or alone?

The (Literal) Taste of Freedom

I'm back again to update about the food sensitivity/allergic colitis situation. I don't want to leave the story unfinished just in case another mom searching the internet and stumbling on this blog is looking for some info about this topic.

Overall, things are going great. Lovey is thriving and we have seen no new reactions in the past few months - except to infant Tylenol and Motrin, which we gave him several times to help him with his teething (poor thing!)

The past week and a half have been a bit of an experiment, and I have allowed myself to eat any foods that I wanted, including dairy and soy. The main reason for doing this was to prepare for an IgG allergy test (see here for the U.S. version). The test is a costly but worthwhile method of determining if I have any food sensitivities that are creating reactions in Lovey. This temporary eat-everything-I-want diet (including 2 Dairy Queen blizzards, an ice cream cone, pizza, Indian food, cheesy dips, soy milk) did indeed cause some symptoms in Lovey, but they were much milder than we expected (some mucous in his diapers and a bit of rash on his back and face) but no diaper rash, thank goodness! I firmly believe that the reactions were lessened by my use of digestive enzymes with each meal. I am also taking flax, fish oil, probiotics, a prenatal vitamin, vitamin D, and a high-potency B complex. Oh, and iron (ask me about our outrageous grocery/health food store bills!) We continue to give Lovey probiotics and vitamin D daily, and flax several times a week.

So now we wait for 2-3 weeks until we receive the results of the test. Until then, I am back to no dairy but I think I will keep soy (in small amounts) in my diet for the next week to see what happens. Unfortunately, Lovey is cutting molars and dealing with some kind of viral flu-ey type thing and not sleeping well at all, so I'd like to know how I'm supposed to track symptoms when so many things are happening at once! I really think that figuring out "what causes what", particularly when you throw the food sensitivities in the mix, is probably one of the most challenging parts of being a parent!

Lovey’s First Birthday!

Lovey is one year old! It is hard to believe he’s not my little baby anymore. Here we are, the parents of a walking (running), talking (sort of) toddler. Lovey, hubby and I have been through so much in the past year, wonderful moments and challenges, and we have all changed and grown.

We spent this weekend celebrating his birthday. On Sunday, we hosted a picnic party at a local park with over 30 guests. It was a lot of work, and I think I might have had fun though it flew by a bit too quickly and I barely had a moment to breathe. Lovey was in his element as the center of attention, and all of the guests seemed to enjoy themselves. While the strong winds were a bit of a nuisance for the adults, the kids were able to fly a kite. There was also a croquet match. The park was the perfect location for families as it has a children’s farm and play barn and playground. Some highlights about the party were:

We strived to make the party as waste-less as possible. We had bought tons of plates, bowls, plastic cups, and cutlery from the local reuse centre – large plates and bowls were 25 cents each, small plates were 10 cents, cutlery 15 cents, and bags of plastic cups were $2. We bought cloth tablecloths (or sheets and shower curtains to be used as same) and napkins. We put them all into large plastic bins, which, once emptied, were used to collect the dirty plates, etc. We brought our blue box for recyclables and our green bin for food waste. Most of the food was homemade so there was not a lot of packaging. As a group, we generated very little actual garbage at all. There was an initial investment, but now we have party supplies to last us for years.

My kitchen talents were yet again tested as I needed to find a cake recipe that did not contain any of Lovey’s allergens (dairy, soy, possibly wheat/gluten). So I found THIS recipe online and modified it (rice milk instead of soy milk, Enjoy Life Foods chocolate chips for one batch and blueberries for the other). It turned out surprisingly tasty and I got quite a few compliments on it. And I’m not complaining about the leftovers, either. Lovey didn’t actually eat any of the cake at the party, but enjoyed a piece at home later that evening.

All in all, it was a successful milestone celebration. I do wish that I had stopped to take more pictures, though.

I’m having the worst time figuring out good outdoor shoes for Lovey for this summer now that he is walking. Currently we use Isabooties and Simple shoes however the Isabooties are great for indoors but might not withstand a lot of pavement walking, and the Simple shoes will be too warm for hot summer days. I’m not totally anti-leather, but I do seek something with an extremely flexible sole (as is recommended by medical professionals for little feet) that is also non-toxic, ethical, and not too outrageously expensive. I know some moms are paying up to $50 for one pair of specially-fitted shoes, but considering how quickly these little feet grow I’m not sure I can justify that kind of cost - especially since he`ll be barefoot more than shoe-ed. Perhaps my findings will be shared in an upcoming post.